Itsy Bitsy Love Notes - Blog

Larry James  http://www.celebratelove.com/blog.htm

All there is, is relationships! Relationships are about how we relate; with ourselves; with people; with our love partner; with the predicaments we find ourselves in; with our boss; with everything!
How we do that, can inspire a lifetime of love and passion or a lifetime of regret for not having lived life to its fullest in our relationships . Great relationships with others begin with having a great relationship with ourselves. This must be foremost in our minds, every day and every minute.

It begins with you. Make yourself better than you ever thought you could be and you will find the relationship you have with your love partner getting better. This works especially well when two people are focusing on working on themselves; together. Then, the relationship you have with the one you love can only grow and prosper.

Only selfish people think only of themselves. When you really love yourself you cannot help but want to give some of your love away. Other people have a need to be loved. So do you. People are like that.

Like attracts like. What you become you attract. Want a great love partner? Become a great love partner! Work on this one. Sharing love with someone else must only and always begin with you. Learn to relate to yourself better. What make you tick? What makes your relationships tick? Answer these questions truthfully and you may discover yourself and a better relationship.

Relationships, when we pay attention to them, are a request for us to be our personal best. Relationships, especially with someone we love and love to pay attention to, begin us on a personal quest, not only for answers but for questions. You are on the threshold of adventure. . . a journey of self-discovery. You may begin to understand why successful love relationships are something to which we must give our undivided attention.

Put yourself first! Never give yourself away in a relationship to the point that you put others before yourself.

Decide what is acceptable and what is unacceptable to you; to your relationship with others and to your relationship with your love partner.

Be yourself. Remember, like attracts like. Be someone who attracts the kind of people you really love to be with! Be the best you can be. Always. Every day and every minute. Plan on good stuff happening in your life and the life you have with the one you’re with and watch what happens!

There are some people we don’t get along with very well. You know, the ones who, if they would only change, you would really love to be with. Well, the bad news is. . . they are you! It’s true. What you see in others, whether you like it or not, whether it is good or bad, is a reflection of something in you that needs attention and perhaps healing in yourself.

What you perceive in others you only strengthen that same characteristic in yourself. The next time this happens, stop, take a breath, step back and notice that this is when you are being the old you and not being the best you can be.

Do you know how to change that? It simple! Do something different. Change your thinking, then change your behavior and you change your life. Change your ‘not so great’ relationship behavior and you change your relationships. Almost always for the better.

I say, “almost,” because your love partner and you, both have choice about whether you will change; for the good; for the worse or just maintain. When you really love someone, you feel a need to move forward, to bigger and better things. . . together.

When you know what it is that you have to do to make your life and your relationships better, and you don’t do it, just know that there can be no good reason for not doing it. I dare you to make people try to believe that you have a good reason, without having them look at you funny. That funny look may mean they think you are full of it.

When you change your attitude about another person, a situation or whatever it is, you give power to the other person or situation to change. It’s giving freedom. You can only grant this freedom if you have it to give away. Then, they have choice about whether they change, or not, and you may also have some new choices to consider. Those choices can always lead you to something better when you decide that is what you want for your relationship.

Just because you know this doesn’t mean anything. Something can never really mean anything until you do something with it. We must do something - whatever it takes - to make our relationships the relationships we love being in. We must always carefully consider what action to take.

Every choice has a consequence; some we call good, some we call not so good. Action without thought is only thoughtless action. Relationships are individual projects first and mutually beneficial projects second and they take our constant attention; every day and every minute.

Knowing this does not mean your relationships will always be great either. You have choice. The dilemma is this: there are two people. That means there are two choices. Not to say anything about the multitude of choices that each of you have. Each love partner is only and always responsible for their own choice.

It is when we forget this that the problem begins. We expect our love partner to make the best choices and when they are not our choices, we get disappointed and most people call that a problem.

The fact that all there is, is relationships, should, every day and every minute, find us being the best we can be. Relationships is the one thing that everyone can relate to. It is often the last thing we work on until the mountain is so high we can both hardly climb it. I have a question. If we know this, for what good reason don’t we work most on what counts the most; the relationships we have with with ourself and others?

We use reasons to explain away why we don’t want to do something; reasons why we don’t want to change. If we know that doing something different might help the situation, not doing something different is called “stupid.” The best reason why has never solved the problem. Often reasons why are understandable, however what is not understandable is why we feel the need to have our lives dominated by reasons why we didn’t do something different instead of results.

When we make the decision to go for results in our love relationships, that’s the real moment we make a decision to grow and prosper, both personally and professionally. We turn our back on childishness. The decision to allow growth to occur is when we become clear that results are more important than reasons why we don’t have them. And. . . when we really love ourselves and the one we’re with, why would we not want to always focus on results in our relationships?

Explore ways of being that empower your relationship. . . explore and discover them together. . . every day and every minute.

Larry James, Author, How to Love the One You’re With http://www.celebratelove.com/
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It’s that season again that single people hate. All advertisers and TV shows focused on Luuuuve. A constant parade of couples, families and children with sticky sweet sentiment everywhere. Positively sickening for those who are alone and don’t want to be. Very painful for those who have loved and lost or may be living with bittersweet memories.

All is not lost for you. What about Valentine’s Day for One? If Valentine’s is a stressful time for you, I have some suggestions for things you can do to offset the strain until it’s over for another year.

Focus on what you do have. Do you have good friends who are also unattached? Pick a time and go to lunch, take each other to a movie and enjoy the ease of a good friendship that doesn’t have the angst of romantic attachment involved. Spend the day with those who are important in your life.

Do something special for yourself. If you struggle with knowing your own value, take some time to evaluate your strengths, talents, and what you contribute to this world. For Valentine’s Day, give yourself the gift of doing something you’ve always wanted, but never took the time. For instance, you could take a dance class, skydiving lessons, or some other thing you always thought you’d do “someday”. Learn to appreciate yourself a little more this Valentine’s Day.

Do something special for someone else. Holidays are especially hard on those confined in hospitals, nursing homes, and the like. Buy some Valentine’s balloons and visit the children’s ward at a local hospital. Call ahead to see if there are any special requirements you need to know about. Spread some love around to those no one else notices. You may even find it becomes habit forming.

Valentine’s Day is about Luuuuuuve, but love comes in many forms. Even without a “Special Valentine” in your life, you don’t have to be left out. You may even learn to really enjoy this season.

Love Letters are a Sensuous Mode of Communication
A love letter to a sweetheart speaks more directly to the heart than any other form of writing. Words chosen for their emotional overtones feel like poetry. They spin a web of attraction that arouses and entices the senses.

“Sensuous� is often used as a synonym for sexy. But it’s more accurate definition is “to delight the senses� – all of them. Romance is sensuous because all the senses participate in the experience. A declaration of love that speaks directly to them ignites passion -because that’s how the emotions and senses express approval.

Words Take a Back Seat to Feelings for Love Letter Receivers
In face-to-face communication we all “read� each other - the speaker’s gestures, facial expression, confidence, enthusiasm, etc. Any sour note or inconsistency undercuts the credibility of what’s being said. Each of our senses report confirming impressions; or whether something “smells fishy.� When words “ring true,� we’re inclined to trust - our guard goes down a few notches.

Body language communicates faster and more accurately than words can. WHAT is being said is less important than HOW it’s being said. That’s not fresh news. But most people fail to realize that written words carry hitchhiking messages as well. And a love letter even more so.

Use words that “speak� for the senses: “the smell of your hair…�, “the feeling of the breeze that stirred up the …�. That adds potency and imagery to your declaration.

A Love Letter Says “I Love You� in Multiple Ways
The point of almost all communication (spoken or in writing) is to be logical - to persuade the rational mind. A love letter does quite the opposite – sending its message to the heart.

A love letter is sent only to a particular person, with a desire to strengthen the bond between the sender and receiver. Taking the time and effort to write a heartfelt love letter makes the receiver feel primary – ahead of everything else. It’s very un-naturalness delivers a potent declaration in its own right.

Although sending one is effective during courtship, a love letter is equally desirable for those in long-tem relationships. You really can’t say “I love you� too often, or in too many ways. The trick is in finding creative and fresh ways to say it anew.

Presentation Bolsters the Loving Message
The “message� the receiver gets includes all those impressions that accompany the letter itself. We like to think that we communicate with what we say – the words. But in truth, people trust the other senses more. So deliver the letter in a way that demonstrates such nuances.

Think beyond the letter’s words. Involve the senses in the experience of receiving and reading it. Add sensuousness to your message by creating at total experience – all reinforcing the importance of your relationship.

A unique way to stand out is by sending your love letter by Pixel Post. Your words of love are posted on an online “billboard� of loveletters, as well as on its own web page http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com . The announcement is then sent to the beloved – a private and public declaration of love at the same time. You can be sure your message will stand out and be appreciated.

The Body Language of Your Letter “Speaks� to All the Senses

• Vision – Looks good, on high-quality or colored paper. Use a pen and write it with your best penmanship. Edit and recopy if necessary. Emails and word-processed emails flunk the vision test.
• Hearing – The crinkle of the paper is a plus. Suggest they have a particular song playing when they read it, for example.
• Smell – A squirt of your perfume or after-shave in a time honored addition – the receiver senses your presence.
• Touch – Paper choice is important since 30% of the message is received by the fingers, before a word is read. Textured and heavy-weight paper says you’re substantial and credible. Why not put something touchy-feely in the envelope too?
• Combination of them – The whole should be more than the sum of specific sense impressions – their overall effect should say “You’re special!â€?

Never doubt that a love letter pays off in a relationship in many ways. Keeping that practice alive is a vote for romance.
© 2006, Lynella Grant

Lynella Grant Capture your lover’s heart by writing down and delivering your deepest feelings online. http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com Like the “old oak tree� your declaration of love is also public and permanent - online for all to see. Post yours among the greatest ever written

Love is timeless. But how it is expressed changes with the times.

Carving one’s “John + Mary” gets a modern twist when it happens on the Internet. Posting tiny messages on a giant wall of love letters acts like that unchanging “old oak tree.” There’s a sense of permanence about doing it. Of following a tradition.

How big is each love letter? 100 square pixels - the size of a pea. That’s too small to read, so each message also appears on its own easily-read webpage. A click on the pixel square (letter) brings up the larger letter. Only the sender and receiver know who sent it. But anyone can read them. (There’s no obscene or inapproprite language.)

Putting them online brings senders, receivers, and interested readers together to enjoy love’s expression. And the message stays there for the long term (again, like the oak tree).

The pixel website concept was introduced by Alex Tew, a student in England. He sold advertizing space for $1 a pixel on his site, www.milliondollarhomepage. He sold all million pixels (for a million dollars) in a few months. The love letter website moves pixel technology from advertising space, into a way of sending a private message - while making a public announcement.

Every lover is challenged to say “I love you” in fresh and amusing ways. To put their own style into the phrase that lovers have repeated forever. Now they can add a novel and fun twist to their heartfelt words. The Worlds Smallest Loveletters (http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com shows what technology in service to love can do.

1. Write a love letter when you’re feeling loving

Its purpose is to express your depth of feeling – your unrestrained emotions. It’s not like a shopping list that you can jot down just by picking up a pen. The intensity of those feelings hitchhike on the words and will be “felt� by the receiver.

2. Hold the image of your lover in your mind, and open your heart to them

Let it flow. Capture the emotions that arise from your core. Expressing them adds an eloquence seldom evoked by daily conversations. The language of love is as artful as a dance. Its goal is to delight, rather than to inform. To caress with emotional undertones, rather than to bludgeon with facts.

3. Avoid any practical matters that puncture the mood

This moment is an escape from the tyranny of routine responsibilities. That will come back soon enough. For the moment, only your beloved matters. It’s often said that love is timeless – sink into the timelessness of it. It’s a profound experience – a bonus for writing from (and with) the heart.

4. Take your time in the writing and polishing of it

Short or long, this is a unique mode of communication. It doesn’t follow the rules of grammar or business correspondence. Savor the writing experience – you’re doing it for them. Avoid second-guessing what you’ve said (the mind wants to jump in and edit, but doesn’t speak this language well).

5. Use adjectives and descriptive images to “paint� a picture with words

A love letter creates an alternate reality. One that the heart desires – and shares with another. And in it the rest of the world is held at bay. Don’t feel shy about writing “poetically” to evoke an emotional response. But don’t force it either. Get into specific details about every aspect of their personality, behavior, etc. Don’t worry about saying too much; a person never gets bored by hearing too many wonderful things about himself or herself.

6. Speak what’s true for you – what your feelings believe

Truth takes on its own shades of meaning when it comes to romance. Your letter should tell what’s true about them (or your relationship) in your eyes. When you say “you’re the most wonderful person…� with sincerity, it’s absolutely true.

7. Realize that a love letter is a frame of mind that helps to keep love alive

And it can and should creep into aspects of your relationship. Expressing love is active. Don’t simply say it, demonstrate it. In a hundred little ways. That’s how the “ties that bind� are created.

8. Express appreciation for who they are, and why they’re important to you

That person is special – and special to you. Make sure they know it. Unlike a “Thank You� note (which has a sense of obligation about it) this is a “Thank Heaven for You!� note.

9. Escape your romantic routines, so your passionate messages stay fresh

The goal isn’t to be “good at love letter writing.� It’s not a technique to be mastered (though you will get better as you continue). The best ones arise from passion. Their authentic and sincere message arises spontaneously. You want to keep re-discovering  each other, so your relationship keeps growing.

10. Add extras that delight the emotions and senses

Consider the whole package – not just the words you write. Weave an enchanting experience rich in sensuous details. Handwritten on special  paper Add scents. If possible, choose the  time and method of delivery.

Deliver a Soon-to-be Treasured Memory

And once you’ve written your truly touching words of love, add another element to make  the delivery stand out. Send it by Pixel Post. Your loveletter is both public and private because the whole world can read it (but only your sweetheart knows who sent it). Your  will appear among the greatest loveletters ever written. Read some pixel-sized loveletters at Worlds-Smallest-Loveletters.com http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com.

Whatever method of delivery you choose, do make a practice of writing your words of love to each other. It’s a two-way street that’s best traveled together.

Lynella Grant  Capture your lover’s heart by writing down your deepest feelings.

http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com Like the “old oak tree� your declaration of love is also public and permanent - online for all to see. Post yours among the greatest ever written

Dazzle your beloved with old-fashioned courtship
The language of love is as artful as a dance. Its goal is to delight, rather than to inform. To caress with emotional undertones, rather than to bludgeon with facts. The subtle nuance goes directly to the heart. Blowing on the flames of desire.

Romance is about the nuance. The dance. Sex is something else again Yes, romance is often the path that builds sexual desire. And the two mesh beautifully together. But in romance, the emotions are front and center, calling the shots. Delighting the senses is a sufficient end in itself. And it deserves attention for its own sake. For its own enjoyment.
Written love letters and notes speak a language that’s “heard� and treasured by the heart. They say “You’re special to me.� in ways that weaken the knees, Each explores the infinite ways to deliver the statement, “I love you.�

Emotions usually take a back seat to practical matters
n this day of emails and time pressures, a hand-written note is almost quaint. Quaint, but touching, nonetheless. That’s why it stands out from the flow of routine information and

hype that assaults us all day. Sending love messages pays big dividends for loving couples – both the sender and receiver.

Words alone usually fail to convey ardent declarations of love. But love letters come close. The package itself is a large part of the message. So make sure it is special, too – the paper, the message, the way it is delivered. Each adds to the mood.

Writers strive to make their declaration of love as unique as they are - as unique as their relationship is. The primary message rides between the words. But it’s received in the beloved’s awareness that “Someone cares!� They care enough to take the time to say so. That’s a romantic home run.

Keeping Love Alive Year Around

With Valentines Day upon us, love gets a bit more notice than usual. But heartfelt emotions deserve to be expressed as they flow. And as one finds additional ways to convey them, ever more opportunities present themselves.

Resolve to say “I love youâ€? in as many ways as you can.There’s no shortage of novel ways to send cupid’s arrow. Consider The World’s Smallest Loveletters
(http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com) as a way to give yours extra notice.

The website takes a person’s loveletter and delivers it to the lover in a unique way. It “posts� it to a giant bulletin board of loveletters. It’s so tiny that the pea-sized letter is linked to a page where anyone in the world can read it. It’s a paradox, intimate communication shared with the whole world. See how it works at www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.cm - and read a few. Send a love note of your own, that says you’re in love a whole new way.
©2006

Lynella Grant Capture your lover’s heart by writing down your deepest feelings.
http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com Like the “old oak tree� your declaration of love is also public - online for all to see. Post yours among the greatest ever

• Both exist in service to love
• And romance
• And sincere expression of heartfelt emotions
• And stronger relationships, that can stand up against the batterings of life
• And sharing that special energy with whomever we encounter

A tall order. But if love can’t manage to do it, we’re all in worse trouble than we know.
And if the experience cannot be joyful, why bother?

Worlds Smallest Loveletters
http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com
It’s a pixel website designed to deliver and display loveletters. It puts a new spin on the pixel ad concept and grid. Pixel Post® delivers your message to “someone special� and the whole world (at the same time). The giant “billboard� posts your letter online, where anyone who wants to can read it. And it stays in place for a long time.

Pixel loveletters are so small (size of a pea), that each letter has its own webpage where it can be read. Besides that, the whole website is packed with helpful resources to help keep your love alive. It will be more interesting as the loveletter grid gets filled in.

Itsy Bitsy Love Notes – Blog
Of course, if you’re reading this you’re at the blog -
http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com/blog/

Although related to the website, the blog has a further purpose as well. That goes beyond the scope of romance – which is just one flavor of affection. What about the love of a grandma for a darling grandson or granddaughter? What about the love one feels for a cherished pet? Who speaks up for those other flavors of love? This blog will.

The Love Holiday is Commin’

Given that Valentine’s Day will soon be upon us, this blog will be updated often. Then it will simmer down a bit. But sharing one’s feelings in words isn’t just for Valentine’s Day.

Expressing love and caring plays on the heartstrings any time of the year. And it might be even more moving when unexpected. Will be posting much more along those lines in the days ahead.

Just so you know, I’m Lynella Grant. It’s up to me to do most of the writing here, but am open to input and suggestions.

Keep love alive. And keep coming back

Lynella Grant